TRANSFORM(ed)

Am happy these days, am TRANSFORMed. I smile at everyone, compliment people and look into their eyes felicitously. I enthuse people, cheer them up and in the end convince them to believe that happiness is just not a emotion, mood; its something related to mind, body and soul, which can be experienced in smallest of things and can scale to biggest things in life too.

But this wasnt the case just few months back. My employer says every being has a TRANSFORMER in self, never understood the crux of this statement (Am not sure whether they themselves understand the same). I have transformed myself (eeh, sounds bit geeky, but its a fact). Yeh transformer they talk about is a business and technology transformer, but to me a transformer can transform any aspect of his life, and as i always say good things do spread around, so aint it a initiative to transform the world itself. A small change can have big impact and only small things can someday blend well to scale and become huge.

Few things i would like to mention here which i did actualize over a period of time. Some were purely thoughts which struck me randomly, some i took from others lives/statements, but all these small things have got me to stage where i see myself transformed. Ok lets talk about it:

1. "You Have got to find what you love": so true. how valid is it!! I wasnt doing what i loved to do. There were many "what-if" things going at back of my mind. All this lead to a distressed being, not doing justice to myself, my skills, to my organization. Then one fine day as part of usual "garbage mail" my friend Nilot sends me at my work id, i got this interesting read with title "you have got to find what you love, says jobs". Thanks Steve Jobs (i adore this guy, i had already read his biography ICon but never thought what was the thing he was putting through out). From scratch this guy did what he loved, got kicked, brickbats so many times; but he continued what he was doing. I realized that day i gotta do what i would love to do. I got enough kick to go and talk to people without considering what they going to feel that i want to move on to something which i would love to do and i am about to get what i wanted. Thanks guys (Nilot and Steve). It just not "WHAT" but also "WHOM" you love. Its very tough if you are confused entity like me to figure out whom you like, i like so many people, tons of them and thankfully they too reciprocate; but their should be a special one; i would say just figure it out. You really need that someone special when you cant broadcast things, this unicast link is a must.
   
2. Good things do come back in life: Am talking about the things which already existed. As we move along in life we meet people who become special and then they are lost. You wonder why did they leave, or if they have left now; why they came in at first place. We humans are insatiable, its good we are, we keep looking for more and more; but sometimes best of things which we always wanted, come close to us, make their presence felt and we the insatiable beings fail to agnize their presence and only when they go off; we realize. It happens to everyone; but moment you realize, make a point to get them back. If they were the special ones; mark my word they will come back. If they can not you would learn a important lesson in life. Never let a person who is special to you go by only because you cant say it. Go ahead and tell them; rest is upto them to decide. No human being ever would get offended to know that they are special to someone. I got my "good thing" back in life. Just gotta tell them (not stalk them though).
   
3. Say Sorry: Dont feel shy to say sorry. It needs a lot of guts to say. No matter how bad the situation is; a apology for some wrong doing would ease out things. Its supposed to be a weapon of coward; its not. Only strong people can accept their mistake and say sorry to someone especially to loved ones. But make it point not to repeat something for which you had been sorry before; then you dont even deserve to be sorry second time around.
   
4. Dont run away from self: I do it, dont know if its foolish. Sometimes stand in front of mirror and think of things which are bothering you or things because of which you are in conflict with someone. Look into your own eyes and see how fair you been to self and others and put yourself into other person's shoe. You will get answer. I know you may ask why a mirror, i know myself well enough? But we humans try to run away from facts when we find ourselves erring and feel shy to tell others about it. So it helps to be with someone; its better be thyself.
   
5. Have a Dream: Ok every time i write about this stuff, but its the most important thing. You cant be a transformer without a dream in your eyes; a personal dream, a career dream, a relationship dream or any dream. And then go for your dream with honest intentions. Not always you will end up achieving that; but trial is worth the effort sometimes.
   
6. Don’t Rush through things in life: I was rushing through things; realized it midway that its not what i wanted it to be. It takes time or lot of effort to get back to a mode where you can clearly see things and understand why they are like this. Sometimes you dont have enough time; but its mere a excuse, we always have time; just we dont want to look at it that way. Think well before going for something.

These are the things broadly i wanted to speak about which have transformed me from a soul-less, follower, always complaining being to i would say a "Happy" being who can look into your eyes and smile at you and can make you smile too (may be just a gesture). Being happy is not just this; your mind is open, you are open to think new and big things, listen to people, help them getting transformed too.
So be happy and keep smiling. Smile is a curve which can put many things straight. (Courtesy: a tees caption i saw at landmark).